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4 Things To Do While Waiting For Adoption Placement

Adoption is not an overnight process, regardless of how much you may want it to be. It takes time for the entire process to play out. Once all the paperwork has been filed and your personal life and finances have finally all been dissected and approved, there is still a waiting game. As you wait for your child to be placed into your home with you, your nerves will likely be shot. However, there are a few things that you should do, including the following:

1. Determine If Your Work Has an Adoption Leave Policy.

Eventually, the time will come when you get your child. Now, when that time finally arrives, chances are you are going to want to take some time off work. However, not all companies will allow adoptive parents paid time off. This doesn't mean you can't take the time off, it just means that you may not get paid while you're away.

So, give your human resources department a call or pay them a face-to-face visit and find out about the policy, or lack thereof. Then, talk to your supervisor about taking a leave of absence when the adoption finally comes through, regardless of whether you will be paid for it.

2. Find a Pediatrician.

If you don't currently have children, then you are going to need to find a good pediatrician. Sure, you don't have the child yet, but it doesn't hurt to go ahead and start researching your options. Talk to your friends, family members, colleagues and even individuals at the adoption agency to see if they have any recommendations.

Look for a pediatrician that you are comfortable with, takes your insurance, and offers both convenient hours and location. Also, if you are adopting internationally, make sure that your doctor has experience with foreign-born children.

3. Meet Other Adoptive Parents.

While it is true that you are not officially an adoptive parent, you will be soon enough and it can help to ease yourself into the process by meeting other adoptive parents like yourself. They can help you prepare for the lifestyle that you will soon be living and alleviate some of your fears that you may having about the entire process. There are a lot of support groups out there, including some that are specific to the nationality of the child that you are adopting, such as Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption, Families with Children from China and Latin American Parents Association.

4. Learn About the Child's Culture.

If you have chosen to adopt internationally, it is a good idea to take the time to learn about your child's birth culture. Purchase some DVDs and CDs that feature pictures and sounds from their home country so that you can familiarize yourself with it and so that it will help them feel less homesick as they are settling into their new home in America.

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